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2021.10.19 04:47 cinnamonswirl78 Did the universe give me an opportunity? Does he think that I’m attracted to his friend and do you think I have a shot if I randomly add him on facebook?
TLDR: 2 guys (25M) came into my (24F) workplace the other week and I really liked one of them, however his friend was the one who ended up getting my number. I stopped texting the friend after a couple days as he wasn’t taking the hint and was wasting my time. I found the other guy that I liked through facebook but I am scared to add him! I know I have nothing to lose but I feel vulnerable because this is the first time I’ve felt so strongly from just one interaction 😭 should I add him or is that weird? Any thoughts or advice would be great thanks 🙏
Hey guys, allow me to introduce myself, I’m 24F and come from an ethnic minority background. (everything I say here will have some relevance to my situation) I have graduated university and am currently working behind a bar enjoying life. I have a very optimistic and easy going outlook on life which is why I’m in no rush to jump straight into a career (or relationship…) but I am working on that aspect of my life in the background slowly and I know i’ll be successful at what I do in the future. I’m very much going with the flow right now and happy with where I am at, enjoying life in the moment. I take care of my body and have a pretty face. I am confident, lighthearted and have a good sense of humour which is why I get along with a lot of people but also why a lot of guys mistake my friendliness for flirting. I know that I have a lot going for me and that there are guys out there who are attracted to me however, when I actually meet someone that I am truly head over heels for, I can’t help but think I’m not enough for them and I have no idea why that is- maybe it’s nerves? Or the fact I can sense I’m about to be vulnerable to someone who I really actually like?
I’ve been single since 2019 and never gone out my way to look for anything romantically. My first/last relationship happened very spontaneously and was a lot of fun- however my family are very strict and want me to date someone of the same ethnic background, hence that whole relationship was kept a secret from them. Since then, I’ve continued to just focus on myself and my own life and never been too interested in “finding the one” (or anyone) because I have this weird faith in life/the universe, that it’ll all just happen for me as I believe with my career. Like obviously with my career I have to put some work in myself but I believe that when I start going down that path, the opportunities will just arise. However, regarding love, I feel like I’ll meet the right person at the right time or through a random coincidence and take it from there. I’ve never used dating apps and also never felt “ready” to use a dating app as I’ve never felt the need to search for someone because I’ve felt content with myself. But then when is the right time to start looking? I might have a slightly weird sense of romantic relationships as I’ve not ever felt the need to go looking for one and am just at that point in my life where I’m excited to meet new people and move/travel about a bit too. Maybe that’s why I don’t feel ready to “settle down” and actively search for someone.
So back to my situation- about a week ago I was at work in my own world on a busy weekend shift when these two guys came in and took a seat in front of where I was working. I paid absolutely no attention to either of them and was busy working for majority of the time they were sat there. So one of the guys kept leaving to go to the bathroom and around the second or third time of him leaving to do so, the other guy finally proceeded to initiate conversation with me and I was immediately attracted to him and we got talking. His friend came back and the 3 of us were speaking. Turns out the guy I liked was moving right by my house, he went to the same college as me, is a year older, and we were all asking each others first and last names as we discovered we were from the same ethnic background/race/religion (and ive never been attracted to guys from my own race before). We had a lot of random things in common like that and the vibes seemed great. However he seemed a little timid compared to his friend and then his friend started taking over the conversation with me- telling me about people he networks with that could be useful to me in the future and all this. He then asks for my number and me thinking about my career gave him my number in front of the guy i liked. Straight after that he was asking me out and I politely declined. He asked why and as I was put on the spot, I started giving this whole stupid speech in front of both of them how I’m “actively not looking for anything and choosing to be single” … I successfully fumbled the bag lol. I think his friend thought that I was interested because I was being friendly and then gave him my number as well 😩 So after this it was fine and we all talked a brief moment more and then they both left. So the guy I liked probably thinks that I was into his friend and not him…
So the next day the guys friend who I gave my number to started texting me and I used this opportunity to try to hint at the fact I liked his friend and to get them both to come back but this guy was a complete time waster and was not getting the hint so i stopped messaging him.
I ended up searching the one I liked on facebook and found him as we all shared our names with each other that night. I saw he was mutual friends with one of my good friends from college and messaged her about him and she told me that her siblings are best friends with his siblings and I was like that’s actually crazy. I even ended up telling my mom about this whole situation and I’ve never spoke to her about a guy ever. She’s really rooting for me and telling me to shoot my shot but idk I’m just at a wall block!
Everyone is telling me to just add him on facebook but I feel as though it might come across strange. I am also unsearchable on facebook as my name is different on there. So he has no way of reaching me even if he wanted to. The more I think about the fact I’m going to have to shoot my shot the more I let my insecurities take over me and as I said, I’m usually a very confident and self assured girl and I am happy and content with myself but now that I really like this guy I guess I’m scared of rejection. He seems to have followed that typical academic route and now has a respectable and good job with all those “tick boxes” checked that the older generations like to see when looking for a good marriage partner.. The fact that I’m a bit of a wild and carefree black sheep in my ethnic community makes me feel like I’m not good enough for this guy when I know that I have no idea how he actually thinks about me, but I’m just judging from how I know our culture to think and act towards people like me who are seen as “floaters”. I am happy but I have a barrier in my head that I’m not good enough for him and his lifestyle and I should be more educated/have a “real job”.
This whole situation also all just seems a bit good to be true to me, like all these coincidences and similarities we share… Like I said before I have faith that the universe will guide me to where I need to be with my career and life but maybe in this instance the universe put him in my life and now it’s up to me to make the next move?? And now sadly he probably thinks i’m into his friend/not looking for anything at all….
I guess that’s why I’ve come to reddit to vent and get some advice! What do you guys think I should do?
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